Well, another date has come and gone. “Jane” and I met at an upscale Italian place in town. I was there very early because it’s right down the street from where I work. It took me a total of 4 minutes to get there. I tried to drive slowly but I just couldn’t get there any later.
So I sat in the dining room – by myself – for about half an hour. It’s a really nice place but they have hard wooden chairs that are not comfortable after about 15 minutes. I know it’s by design (to move people along) but it didn’t make my wait very much fun. The soundtrack they pumped in was a lot of fun – old Big Band music from the 30’s and 40’s. Well, I like it anyway.
So around 6:30 (our appointed time) she bounds in and sits down at the table. She’s tall (6 foot – nice!) with long blond hair (I was told brown, what is wrong with these people?) and a nice figure. If I could spec out a woman for myself, this is pretty much where I’d go. (see picture at left)
This time, I can tell almost immediately she’s not in to me and the disappointment she feels is palpable. She orders a glass of wine and we shift into small talk. She does about 70% of the talking, which is fine with me.
She has a nice bright smile and it’s hard to ignore the tone of her voice. There’s a ‘husky’ quality to her voice as well as a drowsy tone – the words she uses glide from one to the other. I don’t know how to better explain it.
We were together about 45 minutes when she hails the waiter to pay for her wine. I’ve only consumed some water so I didn’t have to pay for anything.
I realize that I don’t have the looks of Brad Pitt or the conversational skills of John Cusak but, you know, I’m not a bad guy once you get to know me. I get the feeling these women are not trying to get to know me.
It could also be that they don’t like what they hear. I’m better when I have contact with women (phone, e-mail) before I meet them face to face. They have a better chance of understanding who I am before they can make judgments about how I look. I can also be more persistent in my pursuit when I’m working with more than just an hour. I don’t make the best first impression, apparently.
So the search goes on unabated.
So I sat in the dining room – by myself – for about half an hour. It’s a really nice place but they have hard wooden chairs that are not comfortable after about 15 minutes. I know it’s by design (to move people along) but it didn’t make my wait very much fun. The soundtrack they pumped in was a lot of fun – old Big Band music from the 30’s and 40’s. Well, I like it anyway.
So around 6:30 (our appointed time) she bounds in and sits down at the table. She’s tall (6 foot – nice!) with long blond hair (I was told brown, what is wrong with these people?) and a nice figure. If I could spec out a woman for myself, this is pretty much where I’d go. (see picture at left)This time, I can tell almost immediately she’s not in to me and the disappointment she feels is palpable. She orders a glass of wine and we shift into small talk. She does about 70% of the talking, which is fine with me.
She has a nice bright smile and it’s hard to ignore the tone of her voice. There’s a ‘husky’ quality to her voice as well as a drowsy tone – the words she uses glide from one to the other. I don’t know how to better explain it.
We were together about 45 minutes when she hails the waiter to pay for her wine. I’ve only consumed some water so I didn’t have to pay for anything.
I realize that I don’t have the looks of Brad Pitt or the conversational skills of John Cusak but, you know, I’m not a bad guy once you get to know me. I get the feeling these women are not trying to get to know me.
It could also be that they don’t like what they hear. I’m better when I have contact with women (phone, e-mail) before I meet them face to face. They have a better chance of understanding who I am before they can make judgments about how I look. I can also be more persistent in my pursuit when I’m working with more than just an hour. I don’t make the best first impression, apparently.
So the search goes on unabated.