You know, I know that L-girl and I are not dating... we're not joined at the hip, but it still pisses me off when I get dismissed.
Previously I had mentioned that L-girl and I were supposed to hang out on Sunday (yesterday). Well, I called her and left a voicemail on her cellphone. Didn't hear anything.
Later that night I realized "hey, I still haven't heard from L-girl".
So I see her in the office:
L-girl: "Hey"
Me: "Hey. What happened to you yesterday?"
L-girl: "What do you mean?"
Me: (now visibly pissed off) "Uh... we were supposed to get together yesterday. What happened?"
L-girl: "Oh, my daughter was sick and I wasn't feeling too good either".
Me: "You couldn't have picked up the phone and just called to say that? You had to leave me hanging the whole day?"
L-girl: "I didn't even know my daughter was sick until this morning. The baby's father kept calling and I didn't even call HIM back. Do you think I'm lying?"
Me: "Did I SAY you were lying?"
etc., etc....
She knows that I am very sensitive about that situation since it happened to me so often in a previous relationship. It really upset me and I let her know.
Of course, I don't know WHY I'm so upset. Like I said, we're not tied at the hip or anything. The guy that L-girl is dating is out of town right now. I think I'm going to get completely ignored when he comes back.
I look for signs when the same things keep happening over and over, I just can't make any sense as to WHY they keep happening. Do I allow them to occur? Do I somehow encourage them or give them 'space' to happen? I'd be happy to 'fess up if it was me but, at this point, I just don't know.
Previously I had mentioned that L-girl and I were supposed to hang out on Sunday (yesterday). Well, I called her and left a voicemail on her cellphone. Didn't hear anything.
Later that night I realized "hey, I still haven't heard from L-girl".
So I see her in the office:
L-girl: "Hey"
Me: "Hey. What happened to you yesterday?"
L-girl: "What do you mean?"
Me: (now visibly pissed off) "Uh... we were supposed to get together yesterday. What happened?"
L-girl: "Oh, my daughter was sick and I wasn't feeling too good either".
Me: "You couldn't have picked up the phone and just called to say that? You had to leave me hanging the whole day?"
L-girl: "I didn't even know my daughter was sick until this morning. The baby's father kept calling and I didn't even call HIM back. Do you think I'm lying?"
Me: "Did I SAY you were lying?"
etc., etc....
She knows that I am very sensitive about that situation since it happened to me so often in a previous relationship. It really upset me and I let her know.
Of course, I don't know WHY I'm so upset. Like I said, we're not tied at the hip or anything. The guy that L-girl is dating is out of town right now. I think I'm going to get completely ignored when he comes back.
I look for signs when the same things keep happening over and over, I just can't make any sense as to WHY they keep happening. Do I allow them to occur? Do I somehow encourage them or give them 'space' to happen? I'd be happy to 'fess up if it was me but, at this point, I just don't know.